The Moneyist: ‘We obviously bet on the wrong horse’: I co-signed my nephew’s $55K student loan: He has no degree and no job. Aside from a time machine, how can we get out of this mess?
My wife and I co-signed her nephew’s student loans so he could attend a small private college. Six years later, he has no degree, no job, no prospects, nor do I believe he has any ability to repay the loan. It’s around $55,000. He lives with his mother, and only on rare occasions does he return our calls or emails.
His mother and grandparents have no means to repay this loan either. Aside from a time machine, what solutions do we have to avoid getting stuck with the tab for this mess? We believed in good faith that this smart young man would be successful and keep his word. We obviously bet on the wrong horse.
Don’t want to be holding the bag in Des Moines
You loaned money to your nephew by co-signing his loan with the expectation that he would finish college, get a job and repay it. In other words, you co-signed the loan so your nephew would make the investment in his own future. The hard, difficult truth is that the actual investment here was his to make, not yours, and that was the risk you took on when you gave your nephew this money.
It’s similar for people who choose to invest in stocks. They have the expectation that the company will pursue strategies to increase revenue and market share, build investor confidence, and increase the share price. But once you hand the money — whether it’s co-signing a loan, investing in a stock, or playing blackjack — it’s out of your hands. Only loan money that you can afford to lose.
Unfortunately, if your nephew does not repay this loan, you are on the hook for it, and non-payment could affect your credit score, and ability to take out a loan or refinance your home. This is a conversation you should have as a family. Interest rates are low. You could pay off this loan, if you can afford it, on the condition that you co-sign on a loan with a lower interest rate.
This is a cautionary tale for others who may be tempted to co-sign a private student loan for a family member. Private student loans make up $120 billion of the $1.5 trillion student-loan industry. Among adults 50 and older, co-signing a private loan is the most common way to help pay for someone else’s education, according to the AARP. One quarter had to make at least one co-payment.
“Historically, people tended to incur debt at younger ages — to pay for their college education and buy homes — and then paid the debt off during their working years,” the AARP report said. “This enabled them to enter retirement debt-free and gave them a better chance of obtaining and retaining financial security as they aged.” Not anymore.
But the other big investment you made here is the emotional investment. You did something good, and you feel cheated and disrespected by your nephew not finishing college, not getting a job, moving back in with his parents, and avoiding your calls. Make peace with that before you approach your sister and your nephew to talk about what steps he (hopefully) plans to take to repay it.
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